You’re getting engaged in the spring (you think….?) and are in an absolute panic. Contrary to what your overbearing mom might be saying, it has nothing to do with Brandon. You’ve known he was the one since his Hinge prompt said he orders tequila for the table. Goals <3
Totally kidding. Four years later and you still won’t let him live that down. While you’re over the moon to spend forever with Brandon, you know absolutely nothing about ring shopping. The question “what style do you want?” literally sends shivers down your spine. For the 42nd time, Mom, I’ll figure it out.
No need to freak. We’ve got the inside scoop on all things engagement rings from viral bridal influencer and professional proposal planner Lexi Tobin. As a recent bride herself (with a baby on the way!), Lexi speaks to the pre and post-wedding phases in a way that feels refreshingly real.
With over 19 M likes on TikTok and counting, the wedding expert walks viewers through the realities of wedding planning - the good, the bad and the stressful AF. Recognized by leading outlets like People and The New York Times, Lexi represents the future of the “influencer bride.”
Below, Lexi breaks down everything you would possibly need to know about engagement rings — style, where to shop, natural vs. lab-grown and everything in between.
PSA: This is “I have no idea what I’m doing” proof.
Ring Styles
Classic Solitaire
The timeless choice for minimalists and traditionalists alike. A single diamond is mounted on a simple band - usually platinum or gold - allowing the stone to take center stage. Its simplicity is elegant and versatile, pairing well with any wedding band or style. Perfect for someone who values understated beauty with enduring appeal.
Halo Setting
A dazzling design where a center stone is encircled by smaller diamonds, creating a “halo” effect. This not only amplifies the sparkle but also makes the center stone appear larger and more radiant. It’s a great choice for those who love glamour and want their ring to catch the light (and attention) from across the room.
Oval-Cut Diamond
An elongated shape that creates the illusion of a larger diamond and flatters the hand by making fingers appear longer and slimmer. Its rounded edges exude softness and romance, while the oval cut’s brilliance rivals that of a round diamond. Currently one of the trendiest styles, it strikes a perfect balance between timeless and modern.
Three-stone ring
A deeply sentimental style featuring three diamonds or gemstones, with the center stone typically larger. The design symbolizes your past, present and future together, making it a meaningful choice for romantic couples.
Pear Shape
A bold and eye-catching design with a unique teardrop-shaped diamond that combines the brilliance of a round cut with the elegance of a marquise. Its tapered shape makes it a favorite for brides who want something unconventional yet stunning. Pro tip: wear it with the point facing your fingernail for a slimming effect!
Vintage-inspired
These rings are designed to feel like they’re from another era, offering a romantic, timeless look. They often include unique details like tiny bead-like accents on the metal, delicate patterns, or floral designs. Whether it’s a glamorous 1920s Art Deco style with geometric shapes or a softer, more romantic design, vintage-inspired rings are perfect for brides who want something classic with a touch of history and charm.
Emerald Cut
Emerald cut: known for its rectangular shape and “hall of mirrors” effect, the emerald cut emphasizes clarity and sophistication. Its step-cut facets create a chic, understated sparkle rather than a fiery brilliance, making it a favorite among celebrities and fashion-forward brides. It’s perfect for those who want an elegant and timeless ring with vintage flair.
Colored Gemstone
Break away from tradition with a vibrant pop of color! From regal sapphires to romantic pink morganites or lush green emeralds, gemstone rings are a bold choice for brides who want something unique. These rings are perfect for adding personality and can often be more affordable than diamonds of the same size.
Bezel Setting
A contemporary and practical option where the diamond is encased in a thin metal rim, offering extra security and protection. Ideal for active lifestyles or brides who work with their hands, this sleek setting is both functional and stylish, with a modern, minimalistic edge.
East-West Setting
A fresh take on tradition, this setting rotates the orientation of the stone, setting it horizontally across the band instead of vertically. It’s a chic and unexpected design for brides who want to blend classic elements with a contemporary twist. It works beautifully with elongated cuts like oval, emerald, or marquise.
Lexi's Favorite Spots To Ring Shop In NYC
Eli David Designs
Specializing in exquisite custom diamond pieces, he offers personalized concierge services to guide clients through every step of their jewelry journey, ensuring each decision is informed and tailored to individual preferences.
Fun Fact: this is where I got my engagement ring and wedding band!
Alexandra Beth Fine Jewelry
Run by the talented Alexandra herself, this female-founded business specializes in creating custom, one-of-a-kind engagement rings. Alexandra and her team work closely with brides from across the country, making each design as unique as their love story.
Klare Jewelers
A trusted family-owned jeweler, Klare Jewelers offers a diverse collection of high-end engagement rings, ranging from classic styles to bold, contemporary designs. Their personal touch and commitment to quality make them a favorite for couples seeking craftsmanship they can trust.
Ring Concierge
Popular among fashion-forward couples, Ring Concierge is all about creating custom rings that reflect your personal style. Whether you’re after a sleek, modern design or a statement piece, their luxurious, tailored experience will make ring shopping unforgettable.
Verstolo
Renowned for their bespoke engagement rings, Verstolo masterfully combines timeless elegance and cutting-edge design. Verstolo offers the unique option of renting high-end jewelry for your wedding day, letting you wear dazzling pieces without commitment.
The Clear Cut
If you’re looking for a mix of trendiness and timeless elegance, The Clear Cut has you covered. Their commitment to transparency and educating clients sets them apart, making them an ideal choice for those seeking a personalized, ethically-conscious custom ring experience.
Stephanie Gottlieb
Famous for her clean, modern aesthetic, Stephanie Gottlieb designs engagement rings that exude minimalism with maximum impact. Her creations showcase diamonds and gemstones set in sleek, customized designs that make a statement.
Lauren B Jewelry
Combining classic designs with contemporary flair, Lauren B Jewelry offers a chic and personalized approach to ring shopping. Known for their stunning, customizable engagement rings, their pieces cater to modern brides who want both style and elegance.
The Diamond District (47th Street)
This iconic NYC hotspot is where you’ll find competitive prices and a dazzling variety of diamonds and engagement rings. From timeless solitaires to the latest trends, the Diamond District is bustling with options and offers an energy all its own - you’ll feel the excitement as you browse through store after store.
Brilliant Earth
A standout for eco-conscious couples, Brilliant Earth offers engagement rings that are not only beautiful but also sustainable. Their collection features lab-grown diamonds and ethical sourcing, making them an excellent choice for those who want their rings to align with their values and their budget.
Carat size
Carat size can sometimes be overrated. It’s more about how the diamond looks in its setting and how it feels on your partner’s finger. You might find that a well-cut stone with a slightly smaller carat size looks bigger and more dazzling than a larger, poorly cut one. Quality always trumps size in my book!
Lab-Grown vs. Natural Diamonds
When it comes to choosing between lab-ground and natural diamonds, I’m all about doing what feels right for you. Both options are beautiful and have their unique qualities, so it really depends on what you prioritize.
Lab-grown Diamonds
These diamonds are chemically identical to natural ones but are created in a lab using technology that replicates the conditions under which natural diamonds form. What makes lab diamonds so desirable is how they are significantly more affordable, environmentally friendly, and ethically sourced while holding such high quality. If you’re someone who values sustainability and social responsibility, a lab-grown diamond can be a meaningful choice without sacrificing beauty. Plus, you can often get a larger or higher-quality stone for the same budget.
However, one thing to keep in mind is that lab-grown diamonds don’t tend to hold their value the way natural diamonds do. They are often priced lower than natural diamonds, which can mean that, over time, their resale value may not be as high. If investment value is important to you, this might be something to consider. But if you’re more focused on the present and the meaning behind the diamond, it may not be a dealbreaker.
Natural diamonds
There’s something undeniably special about a natural diamond. The idea that it’s millions of years old, having formed deep within the Earth, adds an undeniable sense of romance and history to the ring. If you’re looking for a piece of jewelry that feels like an heirloom or carries that classic allure, natural diamonds are definitely worth considering.
Natural diamonds are also more likely to hold their value over time. As a result, they can be a good investment if you’re someone who values long-term resale or just likes the idea of owning something with lasting worth. While the initial price can be higher, it might offer peace of mind knowing that the diamond is more likely to maintain its value. That being said, if sentimental value and personal meaning are your top priorities, this may not be as important.
Time-Frame
When it comes to ring shopping, it’s important to give yourself enough time to find the perfect ring without feeling rushed. Ideally, you should start your search about 2-3 months before you plan to propose, but I recommend starting even earlier if you can. Below, are a few reasons.
Custom Designs & Special Orders
If you’re opting for a custom design or ordering a unique piece, it can take anywhere from 6-8 weeks (sometimes longer) for the ring to be crafted. This includes the time it takes for the jeweler to source the stones, creating the setting, and make any adjustments to the design. Having extra time ensures you won’t be scrambling for a last-minute solution.
Research & Decision Making
Engagement rings are a big investment, so take your time to explore different styles, settings, and stones. You’ll want to really think about what speaks to your partner’s tastes and preferences. Having ample time to browse, visit multiple jewelers, compare pricing, and maybe even narrow down a few options gives you a chance to make a confident decision.
Sizing & Adjustments
Don’t forget that ring sizing might require a couple of adjustments after trying on the ring for the first time. Having enough time ensures you can get the perfect fit without feeling rushed.
Shipping Delays
Depending on when you’re purchasing your ring, whether it’s a local jeweler or an online store, shipping and processing can take a little longer than expected. Starting early leaves room for unexpected delays, especially around busy seasons. If you’re in a pinch, though, many jewelers offer express services or ready-made rings that you can purchase right away. But if you have the time to plan ahead, I highly recommend allowing yourself a few months to ensure everything is perfect.
Ring Insurance
An engagement ring is, of course, a symbol of love, but it’s also a valuable asset. That’s why I always recommend getting your ring insured. Insurance can give you peace of mind, knowing that your investment is protected, whether something happens to it through theft, loss, or damage.
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