If you’ve dated, you’ve been ghosted, and there’s a number of reasons why—all of which translate to good riddance and onto the next. You can have what seemed to be the most incredible connection with this person (and you’d like to think you’re not insane and can gauge when someone’s into you), and then literally never hear from them again. It’s a phenomenon that truly defies all logic.
***what is considered actual ghosting is a debate for another time, but let’s assume that, in this case, you’ve been ghosted when continued communication was a no-brainer***
It goes without saying that the unique details of each ghosting situation are quite crucial to understanding the diagnosis, but nonetheless, there are some overlying theories that most probably apply in one way or the other. And none of them can be taken personally.
1. They’re dealing with shit you know nothing about (and probably don’t want to know)
2. They didn’t get what they wanted from you
3. They’re emotionally and/or mentally unstable
4. They’re confused/don’t know what they want or what it is they’re looking for
5. They’re insecure and feel inferior to you/inadequate
6. They’re scared of rejection and decide to disappear before you do
7. They’re involved with someone else
8. Life got in the way and dating isn’t a priority
9. They have commitment issues
10. They’re desensitized to dating and view you as one of many who comes and goes (especially true if it’s an app connection)
You’ll never know what you don’t know, but rest assured, it’s nothing good!
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dawn_mathis
good read