You’ve gone out on two dates with Ryan. He’s done everything right so far. Your first date is a five-hour-long drinks date turned spontaneous 2 a.m. pizza excursion. You text almost daily. Not all day, but just enough considering you just met.
Next thing you know, you’re in for round two. This time it’s dinner, and it’s lovely. You hear from him the next day; all is right in the world. Except for one minor blip.
By the time your third date comes around, the holiday that tends to trigger mass disappointment among girls everywhere will have neared.
That would be Valentine’s Day. The uniquely inflammatory day of the year that can fast-track a budding relationship just as easily as it can set it on fire.
One could argue that Valentine’s Day means different things to different people, if it even means anything to some at all. That’s perfectly fine and well, but in the spirit of a new connection, it should still be acknowledged accordingly.
Of course, so much is dependent on the depth of conversation in between dates, how long you’ve cumulatively been in touch, the nature of your dates leading up to V-Day, etc.
Should Ryan book a three-course pre-fixe dinner reservation at a Michelin-starred restaurant for your third date, which he decides to set for Valentine’s Day? Probably not. But a “happy valentine’s day” text and/or acknowledgment would be appreciated.
If you're really into each other, major points to Ryan if he made some kind of casual sushi res, though chances are you'll proceed with third date protocol as normal.
Three dates in, it wouldn’t be unheard of if he got you flowers and wrote you a little note, perhaps followed by Valentine's Day-specific plans. But still, it’s murky territory.
Five dates in and it’s Valentine’s Day? You can expect effort to be made, whether that’s in the form of a celebratory dinner reservation or any thoughtful plan that directly acknowledges the holiday and indicates he cares about you.
Happy almost V-Day to all. Or not… if Ryan fucks it up.
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